Here’s a warning. Again. Let’s just say I woke up in a very early, chilly morning, with a sour mood. Sometimes I don’t know why I end up reading blogs of people I try to avoid, but sometimes I like reading blogs at random. It’s because of what I saw (and I’m pretty sure many of you already know whose blog this quote is coming from…) that I am prompted to write this particular entry.
I’m pretty sure you are reading this, because hey, unlike you, I don’t block people from my blog. And if you are reading it, GOOD. Because I want you to read it.
First of all, I’m shocked that you had the nerve to call out two particular people on your blog IN PUBLIC and then be written about them this way.1 Second, seriously, who the hell do you think you are to dictate who gets to blog and who doesn’t, or how bloggers live their lives outside the internet, not to mention which people they should or shouldn’t be friends with? Did you seriously think that bloggers, (hobbyist) web designers and developers just sit around all day, every day, in front of their sites and talking to people such as… oh, yourself?
Seriously, WHO MADE YOU THE QUEEN OF THE “blogging world”?
Holy jeez, you’re a frickin’ adult. Most people your age have jobs, married, have children, own their own homes, and some of these people also work in web development for a living. What the hell have you been doing every day? If you complain so much about not knowing what to blog about, why don’t you get out of the house and do something, such as going back to school (hell, even take free online classes)2, find a job, go out and volunteer for your community, find a hobby that doesn’t involve blogging or the internet in general?
Most of us, even the ones whom you say you “idolize” and ‘respect,” are just sick and tired of your complaining and bitching. You don’t make friends with other people and expect them to be always available to you when you need them3 and when they need the time to spend to take care of the most important events in their lives, such as job-related events, family, and school (ie. studying for final exams), you start bitching and ranting and then calling them off, accusing them of “thinking of nothing but themselves” and then write entries where you dictate to these people (me included) that we should just “close our blogs/sites” if we’re not going to have time for them. Really? Like who the fuck are you to say those things?
You know, since I’m rambling here because I have never felt so pissed off as I am today (and that pathetic move you made behind my back when I was trying to fix your server/wordpress problems to make the theme I was supposed to build you to work is now chump change compared to what you just did on your blog), rather than me cursing the hell out of your pathetic spoiled brat attitude, I’ll just answer exactly to what you’ve written. I’ll even quote them for you so EVERYONE can see!
I doubt Cat or Kya would even welcome me back to their blogroll circle since they’ve been too busy in RL to not even ask how I’ve been doing at all. People like them and three others only care about themselves only like that bitch asshole…
I’m very sure that one of those “three others” that you mentioned here is me. Well, I’ll admit that I am thinking about myself, but for good plenty reasons: my (Ruby on Rails) studies, my ailing father whom I love very much,4 my awesome brother and his upcoming wedding, my diabetes, my job, my other web design/development projects for other people. Some others are ill and ailing themselves that they’re unable to blog. Some others may have technical issues, like a computer not working or they have little to no access to the internet. Others are married, have children to take care of, and because you are neither of the things I mentioned, you wouldn’t care anyway. And because you don’t care about our feelings, how we live our lives, all in general, seriously, why should we all care about you?
The world5 does not revolve around you. No one caters to you solely, why the hell should we? Are you some kind of “divine goddess” that we should all kneel and worship your feet upon?
Why do people even own sites for if they’re freaking too busy in RL that people don’t have time for it. In my opinion it’s just dumb, don’t own the website if you’re too busy rl that you can’t manage it.
- Because writing of any kind (which includes blogging) can be considered therapeutic6 and relaxing to many of us.
- Because BUILDING and OWNING a site7 is FUN.
- Because our sites can also be connected to our own REAL LIFE. For example, one person blogs about their diagnosis with their health, another person (me, for example) want to chronicle everything they learned from school and write about them as our own personal records. Hell, I built a wedding site for my brother and his fiancee!
- Because, to some of us, we build sites and maintain blogs FOR A LIVING. In short, building sites and blogging is part of our daily paid job, so in short, we do get paid to BUILD (yes, BUILD) and MAINTAIN sites, especially when those sites belong to other people, like businesses, organizations, and other individuals. And in addition, web designers and developers are required to have an online portfolio of our work, and yes, that COUNTS as a website that we own, so you can shove your “In my opinion it’s just dumb, don’t own the website if you’re too busy rl that you can’t manage it” shit up your ass.
I get disgusted and wanna puke every time I see her name on the internet and in that directory site. I hope she rots in hell for all I freaking ass care. Go die stink bitch.
And what you have said here just now is what makes YOU the bully. I know exactly who you’re talking about, and you’re only bitter because she actually had the guts to get up to you and told you straight out of the truth about you. You may think that you’re the “innocent” one, but everyone else sees you as the opposite. You think you’re the only one who can have a foul mood? Well guess what, so can I and the rest of the people you used, abused, and mistreated just because we have a lot more important things to do that doesn’t revolve around the internet, blogging, and most of all, people like you.
You know, I’m not the type of person to unleash any rudeness and bluntness towards other people straight in their faces, but because you’re such a horrible, nasty little bitch, I’ve had it. You keep playing the whole “woe is me” act, and when people get mad at you because of your erratic, bipolar behavior, you announce to the whole world that you’re the victim and the others are bullying you. Well, I’ve got news for you! YOU are the BULLY, YOU are the one who causes all the unnecessary drama by your demanding and whining, both in public AND private.
Which goes back to the quote above. Why do you even own sites for if you don’t have anything to write about? There’s no rule that says that we have to blog every day, and no, YOU DO NOT MAKE THE RULES. Because if you are the one who’s making the rules, then seriously, no one really is going to have their own sites and blogs, which means, there would be NO ONE whom you can pay to build WordPress themes and graphics for you. Again, go and learn how to build your own stuff and save your money to go back to school. Yep, your “declaration” is a double-edged sword— bad for us and most especially, bad for you.
I’ve got plenty of other crap to spit out on your face, but I’m only making my dad upset for being pissed off and stressed out. I care more about my dad than you, therefore I’ll shut up right now.
Last, but not least, my final words to you:
Grow up and get a life!
On the sidenote...
- even though you blocked my IP from your blog and you edited your entry much later, I do have a screenshot of your original entry. It’s waiting and itching to come out. [↩]
- after all, if you can afford to buy themes and graphics from web designers and developers whom you also mistreat and disrespect at the same time [↩]
- unless you’re paying them to be there for you just for casual talk, we all have lives to live and worries to deal with that’s got nothing to do with blogging or internet [↩]
- can’t say the same about your own family, since you always bitch and complain about them all the time on your blog and you seriously have nothing nice to say about them… did you think that you talking shit about your family in public like that would make you look “cool”? To many of us, that only makes you an ungrateful, stuck-up little brat. Get over yourself and get a life! [↩]
- that includes the “site world,” the “blogging world,” the “internet world,” and worlds outside Earth [↩]
- hold up, I don’t think you even know what this word means… lemme rephrase… a buster of stress!! [↩]
- if you can’t be satisfied with the way your “idol” web designers/developers live their lives outside the internet, do all of us a favor— LEARN HOW TO BUILD YOUR OWN GODDAMN SITE, WORDPRESS THEMES, AND ALIKE!! [↩]
September 22, 2016 @ 7:15 pm
It seriously baffles me that people who are 29 or older acts and behaves like this. I have an aunt who is (I wanna say she’s about 50?) in her 40s or 50s and she acts just like this. It really and truly is sad that these types of people have to take the fun out of blogging. Honestly, I have reported this person to her hostess due to her foul language. I’ve never in all my years of blogging have ever witnessed or come across a blog that has cursed the way this person has done. It’s just sickening that adults behave this way. Have their brains not fully matured?
September 22, 2016 @ 10:23 pm
The bad thing about the internet in general, where it be on a blog or on social media, is that people can be whoever they want to be and people (in general) won’t care. That is, they can be somebody they are not in their real life. It’s not just this person that I’m having a problem with, but also in real life (somewhat) involving my brother (I told you about this already weeks ago, so you know the deal XD).
Even if this person may have some… “quirks,” it’s wrong to use these “quirks” as an excuse for her to spew out shit like that on people, mentioning names and assuming crap, and then involve others who are also going through the same crap with her. I’ve completely cut myself away from her for a long time now and it has been quite peaceful for me, but I’m tired of staying quiet, not when there are other people who are also going through the same thing w/ her as I did w/ her in the past.
On the other hand, “age is nothing but a number,” after all.
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September 22, 2016 @ 9:42 pm
The immaturity of some people really baffles and upsets me. I’ve had several people name me on their blog and write extremely nasty shit about me publicly. Taking screenshots helps in case you need to bring up the incident later on. But it’s completely unacceptable for someone to be naming and shaming someone. In this case it sounds like the person is having a whinge because things did not go their way.
We all lead busy lives, and even though I have some time on the internet, I spend a lot of time at work, with my friends, with my family, doing projects on the side, and that time on the internet is limited. Sometimes I don’t have time to reply to everyone or to give everyone the time of day. They just have to wait longer for a reply and be a little patient. Not everyone is on the internet every single day. Not many people have that luxury.
If I saw a post that outed people like that, it would make me angry too. I completely understand if people need to complain on their personal blogs and vent (just like you have here), but naming people is uncalled for. People who do this are, one hundred percent, engaging in bullying behaviour.
I really hope you don’t have to deal with more people like this, the immaturity is shocking. :(
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September 22, 2016 @ 10:39 pm
Thanks for stopping by Georgie, good seeing you here. :)
I took a screenshot of the original entry before I started writing this (and this was very early in the morning, like around 7:30-ish), and not to my surprise, she edited her entry and then blocked/blacklisted my IP from her blog. She must have forgotten that I do (part-time) WordPress development as a side job and must think that I’m an idiot that she could get away with all that LOL. But it wasn’t just this entry that finally prompted me to be a bitch with this post. I’ve heard enough stories from friends and even others I’ve never met who are going through the same old crap with this one particular person. Sometimes, though, I do feel that I’m too nice for my own good, and rather than going around these people and then warn them about her, I’m respectful enough for those people to make their own judgments based on their experiences rather than hearing it from a stranger.
This isn’t the first time I’ve dealt with this same person, but you know, being involved in some “online drama” is somewhat of a rarity for me for the 10+ years of my internet existence LOL, but you know, we make our own mistakes to learn new things, and make amends from our actions in the past. I can’t say the same for this person though.
Then again, she blocked me from her blog. It may be the last time I’d end up visiting her blog again in one of the most random days, but it wouldn’t be the last time I would hear about her (if not from her). You just wait and see. ;)
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September 23, 2016 @ 9:19 am
To add onto this, after she posted mine and Kya’s name, she emailed both of us asking if she could be blog buddies with us again. She then blacklisted my IP too. In what world does this kind of behavior merit a friendship??
I feel like we don’t have to justify ourselves because anyone who is reasonable knows that other things happen in life and that personal life always takes higher priority. Not just that, but if blogging is a hobby, then it should be done when it makes you happy. Sometimes it’s simply “I don’t feel like blogging right now” and that is totally valid too. I feel like she’s lashing out because we don’t give her enough attention, and she thinks it’s because we’re too busy for her. Really, it’s because of things like this that we don’t want to. We choose who we want to be friends with, and it’s not something you can just force onto someone.
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September 23, 2016 @ 4:52 pm
LOL that really does sound like her. She asked me if I can build a wordpress theme for her (for free). Since I’m such a nice person, I agreed to it. But during the process, the base theme I was supposed to work (child theme) on isn’t working properly on her blog (her site won’t show w/ the base theme), and I figured that it’s probably because of her web hosting (she probably has limits on her package, etc.). She sent email to tech support with the WRONG info, she forwards me the email that tech support sent to her, she asked me to fix it from her end, and by the time I got that forwarded email and was ready to fix the issue, she just flat-out went ahead and PAID another designer to build her new theme. She then blogs shit about me, and right after, she blocks me from her blog, and THEN had the nerve to message me on Facebook apologizing to me for what she did to me behind my back. I mean WTF was her game? I was at work when she forwarded me that tech support email. I didn’t know I had a deadline or something, but since I’m not getting paid, screw that LOL.
The problem with her is that, dare I say it, she doesn’t have a life. She freaks out whenever she messages someone and doesn’t respond for less than 5 seconds (even knowing that they have school, work, etc.). What the hell does she think life is? High school?
But, as I mentioned up there, if I were in the middle of chatting w/ a friend and my dad needed me, I would drop everything and be there for my dad. My family, my work, and my classes are always priority over everything else, and she doesn’t get that. She’s also two-faced as well.
Her rotten, spoiled brat “princess of the ‘site’ world” attitude already defined her as the bully, even though she goes around claiming to the public that she’s the one being bullied. Wow, really.
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September 23, 2016 @ 10:47 pm
I get we all want friends and we want to communicate with them. But what’s not cool is being clingy to the point that you can’t help but feel annoyed. People need to understand that there are such things as timezones, work, and life! If someone messaged me when it’s 1:00am here, it’s inevitable I will not respond until at a more reasonable time instead of zombie hour! Now if I had zombie hour schedule, then that’s different, but I don’t. Like most people, I work the typical 9-6 job, and now that I’m at a job where I am not supposed to use my personal cellphones during duty hours, my time online is pretty limited during the week.
We all have priorities. Online life was a priority for me when I was younger, but that’s not the case any more. Sure, I make it a priority during certain times of the day and week, but I need to make an income to support my lifestyle, so work will be a priority for me. My friends and families are a priority, too, but unless it’s like a super urgent emergency (ie: someone getting into a car accident), work will have to come first. It really baffles me that there are people who do not understand that.
Bah! Just thinking about this person is making me mad. Time to think about something else!
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September 23, 2016 @ 11:17 pm
Last week, when my dad announced to me and my sister of the results of his current condition, he also advised me that he wants me to prioritize work and classes over him, because worrying about him every day isn’t going to make things better for me or anyone. After realizing it, he was right. Anyway, out of subject there LOL.
After we emailed each other about my situation w/ that person months ago (yup, same person if you haven’t guessed) and that I thought I’d finally be at peace, she pops up again, simply because now, more people are going through the same experience (in different situations, of course) with her as I did. I could have made contact with every single one of them right after, but I have too much respect for them to make their own judgments with this person. In a way, I feel bad, but at the same time, there are some situations where we need to learn about the hard way.
I also figured that her “Loathful 5” includes me (and Cat?) because both our IPs were blocked from her blog. You know, she could write out her rants in private, but then again, she’d be complaining again in her blog that she’s run out of things to write about, so she had to use that so she can finally get all the attention she so deserves. *shrug* But you know, most of us here have been blogging for several years now (some of us over a decade), and I’ve never even heard of her until these past few months, and here she is declaring her “blogging standards,” and since we’re so “busy” with our offline lives that we should just shut down our sites.
Blogging, and just owning sites altogether, should be something fun and relaxing. No pointless drama is worth losing the fun out of this wonderful interest that many of us decide to pursue on this field for a living.
Time to think about something else hehe. ^_^
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September 25, 2016 @ 3:10 pm
I totally agree with you Adri! I have a sneaky suspicion and feeling that I am part of that loathful 5 she hates so much. However, this is NOT how you gain friendship. You can’t expect someone to sit at the computer 24/7 like Pim does. Like Tara stated we all live in different time zones and such and are some times unable to reply. When we don’t reply that’s when Pim gets mad at us and starts blogging about us and how she’s being “bullied.” Yet, she tries to pull the woe is me card game to new people that she meets so they feel sorry for her and be her friend until she starts getting mad at them and blocks them. Yet, she wonders why people don’t like her? I’ve tried to her like her, but I can’t any more. I ended blocking her as she requested really off the wall favors from me i.e. asking another blogger to change her mind about how long a theme should be up, getting mixed up in HER drama. Every time I said no, I was blocked. Good, I don’t want to read her boring blog any way.
September 26, 2016 @ 10:51 pm
“asking another blogger to change her mind about how long a theme should be up”
Eh, she’s probably talking about me LOL. I feel that using the theme that you have worked so hard on for just one measly day makes me feel “low quality” as a designer and developer. She’s treating her collection of custom themes as some kind of a wardrobe, and that her blog is basically herself. She’s playing “dress up,” if you notice it. Here’s how I see it: Her blog is simply HER. She and the blog are the same. It’s like changing clothes to the latest styles and trends every single day. The web designers/developers who built and designed all her themes are like her personal fashion designers and wardrobe stylists. Do that catwalk now LOL.
Now, I understand once a month or once every two weeks, but seriously, every single day? My hard labor has been downgraded LOL.
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September 26, 2016 @ 4:56 am
Thank you so much Adri for all the tips you gave me about responsive themes. I will try to understand them pretty soon. But I want to start with basic coding first because I have the impression that I lack a lot of information and I want to be as close as perfect as possible.
I know who you are talking about. I can totally agree, this person is acting out and I don’t think is right. I mean, we should have peace and understanding around here, not a whole bunch of online drama. Maybe things will cool down and this particular person will just go on with her life and stop trashing other people on her blog, because is not a nice thing to do and in my opinion is more like a way to get attention, which is not going to be effective, because this kind of behavior will drive people away, not bring them closer. It’s sad to see that this kind of things are happening :(. Don’t worry about this matter, just go on with your life and ignore all this drama.
Take care <3
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September 26, 2016 @ 10:46 pm
No problem Cristina, thanks for stopping by!
Sometimes, I look at the default codes and see how the frameworks were set up, what causes their base code to be responsive, etc. For example, with Bootstrap, I look at the bootstrap.css file and then look at the media queries there (this is what’s going to make your site responsive). Then I would look at the base HTML codes, sometimes with sample starter themes too. It helps a lot on understanding RWD in general and how it really works. :)
You know, I’ve had this inkling that whenever she runs out of topics to write about on her blog (and the reason being that she gets problems with that is because she makes it a habit of writing one entry every single day), she’d start going back to talking about how awesome her theme (of the day) is, or she would just go out of the blue and bash random people for “thinking of nothing but themselves.”
Unless there *really* is something wrong with her (and if this were true, she should’ve done something with that problem already), I’m compelled to say that among all the certain types of people I’ve met (and disliked), she has got to be the most despicable person ever. She never learns. She keeps on wondering why “no one wants to be friends with her” and her whole “no one really likes me, which is why I don’t have any friends. I just want to have friends. Is that too hard?” act. It’s just… horrible.
I have other (and a lot more important) things to think about (and yes, I’m thinking about “myself” LOL) right now, like the usual ruby on rails class problems, and my brother’s feelings after my dad finally told him of his condition. I worry because that he is the only son, and of course, my dad is his best friend.
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September 26, 2016 @ 5:22 am
I can be considered as “the other designer” too, as a couple of weeks ago she commissioned and paid for a wordpress theme on my webstore as well – from what I got, almost immediately after buying one from the mentioned designer.
This girl has being doing thi sh*t since at least 2013 – the first time I heard of her on deviantART – and several site owners have complained about her frankly mentally-unstable attitude since then, yet she still perseveres….she doesn’t seem to get that her attitude is gonna get her kicked out on her a*s from the siteworld, blogging world and online world in general; she’s still here because the community’s new entries don’t know what she did, hence fall for her “I’m a bullies’ victim, woe is me” and “I’m sorry, I’ve changed now” acts and defend her – until she pulls the same stunts wit them and reveals her true self (I’ve seen it happen).
But I guess that someone who at 26 years old of age poses herself as her own little sister defending big sis can’t be swayed by something simple as people telling her to grow up and get a life.
September 26, 2016 @ 10:39 pm
A little bird has told me that she also stalks around said blogs and begins to leave “anonymous” messages on their comments bashing them, calling them cowards or something (not revealing her name is cowardly already in my opinion), bashing them like we’re some kind of stupid, but she’s so easy to be identified just by the way she types and the way she uses her wordings, and like how she pretended to be her “little sister” on dA, she also pretended to be someone she really isn’t. More on this some other time LOL.
I don’t think she doesn’t know what “grow up and get a life” means. She could’ve been talking about her job or her school work or a moment she hung out with her friends by now and then not complain about running out of ideas to blog. Bleh.
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September 28, 2016 @ 8:15 pm
I actually bought her a domain without knowing the kind of person she was…I’m so sorry. I feel like it’s all my fault…:/
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September 28, 2016 @ 8:44 pm
Don’t blame yourself Michelle. Remember, you’re not the only one who was “duped” by her. A lot of us here, including me, fell victim to her whiny, manipulative attitude. What happened in the past is all in the past. All we can do is just move on.
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October 5, 2016 @ 12:54 pm
I knew enough about that person to know how she actually is. She actually made one of my closest blogging friends turn their blog private for their own sanity. I would understand it and I did. But I won’t understand the way this person is talking about others. This person once asked me to make an icon for her and once I told her that I don’t have the time for it she just answered with a ‘:(‘. Then I saw her posting on someone else’s chatbox that ‘this person is not making the icon she wants’ and you could bet your scarf that she was talking about me. Whatever, I resisted to make her the icon and then she went complaining on her blog that the icon didn’t look like she wanted it to be. Sorry, but if someone wants stuff for free it won’t look as better as the stuff people would pay me for it, honestly.
I have heard enough tales about this story and I’m honest, I am so sick of tired. This person makes me utterly uncomfortable it took me a while to break ties with her on my blog because, let’s be honest, even if she complained about me or someone else, hell, then she wishes she’d never came across the website world.
It’s rude to see that this person complains about other people being busy in real life. Living in a fantasy world like this person does is not a way to act. Vagueing about people from the community is the worst way you can do just because you’re not satisfied with them. This person should just learn that things don’t roll around her and that the things this person does are completely wrong.
October 10, 2016 @ 12:06 pm
I apologize for the late reply. I had to take a “sabbatical week” for my family these past days.
The problem with her, and I mean no offense (because really, I’m only stating facts based on observation and experiences from others), she never learns anything. It’s not that she *can’t* learn anything, she *doesn’t want* to learn anything at all. She knew she made mistakes, but she wouldn’t even learn from them.
I don’t think she even knows the meaning of what an “adult” is supposed to be. We’re only young once, and as we age, we also get past that particular stage and realize the world we live in, and we must adapt. She refuses to adapt to reality, sadly. She finds “real world” being boring (and she admitted that also herself in one of her comments on others’ blogs), and it’s one of the reasons why she acts like she’s some kind of a goddess that we all should “serve” for her own needs. She likes to talk about others’ and how much of a “bully” these people are, and yet she also plays the “victim” herself. Oh well, I don’t know.
Thanks for stopping by. Much appreciated. :)
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