Although, to be realistic, I can’t really say that. Every blogger, especially niche-less bloggers like me, have the right to blog and say anything that they want regarding certain topics and issues they aim at. Not only that, every blogger has the right on how they want to write/say certain things about the said topic. I feel the same way too.
However, I also feel that there should also be a limit on what a blogger should write/blog about, especially that a blog site is, for the most part, public.1 There are certain topics that you feel compelled to write about, however, at the same time, you also need to think about the consequences or the outcome of the said topic. Some topics may be sensitive to others on many different levels, and for that, this is where I feel that lines should be drawn.
The reason why I’m writing about this is because this is also one of the reasons why I barely visit certain people’s blogs.2 Never mind that I’m busy with real life, my lifelong online learning, and among other things related (and we’re always busy with real life every day). But, there are some people I know, friends included, who always write/blog about the same topic over and over again, writes about that same topic with pretty much the same words as the last, and you know, a blog without a variety of topics becomes a complete turn off for readers. They have become turn offs for me as a reader too. Whenever I see people do this, I get some ideas on what they were aiming for, right or wrong. I want to say something as a friend to these people for them to stop writing the same thing over and over again, but sadly, I have no choice at this point but to stay quiet and just simply stop visiting their blogs.
I tend to always be one step ahead when it comes to these things. I want to advice these people as a concerned friend, however, I’m afraid that I would be getting the same treatment as their other friends who already advised them about topic discretion in their blogs. In fact, I see this a lot more on social media, as well as with their blogs. Concerned friends being told off that “you don’t know anything” about what’s going on with their lives right now3 or that they would have attitudes like “I didn’t ask for your opinion,” “what I write is none of your business,” etc. etc.
I’m going to be blunt and honest here, but this dragging, repetitive habit that’s going on in their blogs is already giving me the idea of what their motives behind them really are: seeking attention. Sure, it’s possible that they’re doing this unconsciously, but this is what happens if they’re not carefully being discreet about what they write in public.
For example, just an example, alright? You were going through some mental issues, like depression, for example, and that you needed to write about them as a form of therapy, to calm yourself. I may sound judgmental, but if these entries can be informative, or something leaning more to prose such as “My mind is (doing this) whenever the panic attacks start…,” rather than spewing so much hate and blame towards other people. It may be understandable if they were mentioned once, twice, or once in awhile, but when the same thing is being written in almost every single entry, that’s where I start to get a little suspicious and judgmental.
So, what do I do in these situations whenever I find friends or even just companions through blogging doing this? I don’t really do anything. I just don’t say anything. Why would I when I’ve witnessed how these bloggers treat their commenters whenever they comment their concerns about them? It’s a lot more stress-free and that friendships will (possibly) be saved just by being silent. As some would say, silence is golden. I rather not say anything and not even bother than showing how much I care, only to be blown off in return.
I know, I’m sounding like I don’t care. After all, I have my own troubles to worry about than to care about someone announcing her entire life in public, to the point where things become so insensitive that it can affect me and some other people who may read it. But, unlike some of these people, I rather keep all my troubles private. After all, I have the right to privacy for myself and for those involved, and of course, I have the decency to respect others who may not be going through troubles of their own and want to have a peaceful and secure time while they’re online, reading select blogs or even wall posts on Facebook or any other form of social media. I’d like to have some peace and quiet myself too.
So please, I ask everyone, especially those who are becoming repetitive and display some unnecessary attitudes to those who care, to be discreet with the things you write about in your blog. People wouldn’t just be offended, but will also be hurt, angry, and annoyed in many different ways. If you really do care about people coming to your blog and comment their thoughts about what you’ve written, please, give some variety, and write about topics that you know or feel that everyone can somewhat relate to. They don’t even have to be about you or your life even. No one would play one single over and over and over again and not try other different tracks, right? Please, don’t be a broken a record with your blog.
And I am asking nicely. Thank you.
On the sidenote...
- A “private” blog to me would be a journal or a journal app that isn’t available online… [↩]
- this also includes blogs owned by my friends too [↩]
- which I find hypocritical because they keep announcing every single detail of their life in public in the first place… [↩]