It’s the week of October 7th. In seven more days, I will be leaving 41 and entering 42 this Sunday. Because the day just happened to land on a Sunday this year, I probably won’t have time to blog on that day because for sure the family and I will be out of town having dinner gatherings or anything similar to celebrate (double) birthdays for my brother and myself.
So, I’m writing this entry today so I don’t have to write about it on Sunday, especially that my mind is still fresh. Yesterday (10/08) was the observed Columbus Day… or whatever day you want to call it since people here and there have been protesting about it. At least it’s a holiday for some, right?1 Anyway, moving on.
Meeting the Global Axcel 😁
In a country we live in which K-Pop boy groups like BTS and NCT 127 are currently blowing up the U.S. media today, I’ve finally met the one person I’ve been looking forward to met since we first met back in April online.
I’ve written about Karu-chan before in this blog awhile ago, and because of our busy schedules, we never really had a chance to at least meet and hang out once. After those months, we finally did on a controversial holiday known as “Columbus Day.” A teacher and an advocate of some of J-Pop‘s hidden gems in boy groups like MADKID, IVVY, SELLOUT, WAVE, GRiT, and possibly more I didn’t get to list, Karu-chan definitely is one of a kind. If it weren’t for her, I wouldn’t be actively following MADKID like your everyday fangirl2 and I wouldn’t be having the kind of mindset that I hope to be in the near future.3
Karu-chan currently works as a pre-school teacher, and hearing how stressful and exhausting it can be dealing with little children every single day, she still continues to keep her head up with the things outside the school and the things she cherishes the most. Not very many people, adults especially, can continue to smile and have a positive outlook throughout the rest of the days regardless of the strenuous long hours you have in dealing with one of life’s biggest challenges. We’re both single but independent working adult women who know exactly what life’s priorities are, and when we have our talks together on that one afternoon, it was more about us, life, the “current affairs,”4 more than just fangirling over MADKID and its members and even their “brother groups” like IVVY, SELLOUT, WAVE, and GRiT.5 Either way, I look forward to our next meeting and we both planned that we’d make this a regular thing.
This thing called “adulting”
The hardest part of being an adult and having good friends from all places are schedules and timing. In our small private MADKID chats on Twitter, we always reminded the rest of the small number of global Axcels that social and communication skills are the most important to possess as you grow, because you’re going to need it to survive the “real world.” In elementary, middle, and high school, peers and social status are more priority than earning good grades or even learn new things such as volunteering to make a small impact at a young age. We all have gone through that. But as you reach college/university, it’s a whole different ballgame. College/university isn’t just another school level, but it would be like moving to a brand-new city or country you’re completely unfamiliar with and with no one else you’re familiar with next to you. There are even chances where your old high school classmate whom you’ve never spoken to may end up being your new friend. In this post-high school stage, your discoveries of who you are and what you want to be moving forward is more priority than dealing with the “popular people” and the “cool kids,” because at that stage, there is no such thing as the “cool kids.”
J-Pop fans in a K-Pop-dominated country
That being said, I guess you could say that we want to have a huge number of Axcels who can become level-headed and not be possessive or obsessive on their favorite groups and idols. I mean, after all, look at all the fanwars going on in all social media platforms right now.6 Do these “stans” even truly support their favorite groups and idols by hating on other groups and artists they’re not fans of? What exactly do these fans gain anyway, bragging rights? Do these people even buy their CDs and singles and whatever merchandise that has their names and faces on them?
No thank you. We’re happy with MADKID, or just J-Pop in general. Sure, J-Pop may not be blowing up right now on U.S. media unlike with K-Pop right now, but we’re both happy with where we are right now. No insecure haters7 that’s going to make us change our minds with who we want to support. And also, what’s wrong with multifans? In the end, music is music. We all have different tastes, and that’s just how it is.
Become a teacher and/or mentor
Lastly, the power of teaching and mentoring has driven me to finally go for it instead of me just waiting and hoping I would get to that level with the things I love the most. Karu-chan has goals on moving forward as a teacher in Japan (English teacher for pre-school children?) and she plans on looking into it next year. Then recently, MADKID members Shin and Yuki held a dance workshop for high school students last weekend at a performing arts vocational school. We don’t get that many idols or artists who would take the time from their busy schedules just to teach and mentor the young on the things they love, such as dancing. It may be a one-time event that time, but I’m pretty sure there will be more dance workshops the boys will plan on teaching in the future.
In turn, my hidden ongoing desire of teaching women and girls how to code somehow awakened. As mentioned in my previous post, the re-establishment of GDI Oakland has finally launched, and a calling came to me from GDI for teachers and teaching assistants to future coding and tech-related courses from the organization. On my current part-time job, I get to be a coach and mentor to fellow employees, especially those who recently started their roles there. In some ways, I was able to lead people into doing their jobs better while staying positive and uplifted all at once. It may not be completely tech-related, but I feel that it’s more than enough for me to be qualified as a teacher/mentor in coding and the basics of web dev.
I’ve been doing that a little bit through my learning tech blog, though I halted the blogging at that point. Lately I’ve been fascinated with SSL and overall website security and I have been working hard to get all of my existing sites to earn that coveted “green padlock” on Google Chrome and other browsers to let users name that the site is fully secured and is not filled with weird hidden bots or bugs. I still have yet to write case studies involving SSL and security, but I will eventually soon.
But first, I need to fix this mixed content issue with The NINPOJineous and make this blog completely secure. I’ve already deleted the said file that’s causing the domain to not gain its green padlock status. I may have to move this site to another server, we’ll see.
Have you met anyone you’ve known for so long online lately? Share your stories! I’d like to hear them. 😁
Till next time!
On the sidenote...
- I’m off on Mondays, so it doesn’t really matter to me. 😅 [↩]
- that isn’t exactly a “hardcore stan” [↩]
- NOT fandom-related, mind you… [↩]
- K-Pop fanwars… [↩]
- And when we do talk about MADKID then, it was mostly about the members we’re both closest too (by saying hi and talking to them on livestreams): Shin and Kazuki. [↩]
- in particular, BTS and NCT 127 [↩]
- though we never actually came across any MADKID haters thus far… [↩]